Hair Update: I’m not a Hair Blogger


If you know me, you know I LOVE MY HAIR! Especially when it’s just done, like FRESH out the Salon done! It makes me feel like a whole new or different woman each time but it’s been a while since I’ve been to a hair salon because I’m transitioning to natural.


I think my last relaxer was right before I went to California in 2015.  Let’s start by saying that this might be the second hardest thing to maintain. What I’m learning about natural hair is that it is a scheduled and very detailed process.


So here’s the update:

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Complaining my way to Self CARE


I’ve spent the last few weeks complaining. I called a friend, we met up for drinks, and I continued to complain. Through sips of my mojito, I asked her to be my accountability partner, because we all need one. But I shouldn’t need an accountability partner to realize that I need to be better about my self care. Continue reading “Complaining my way to Self CARE”

Currently: The WeekEnd

Baltimore, Maryland
Gassed up my sister’s car, picked up her best friend and the other love of my life (God son), jumped on the 95 and headed to Maryland for the weekend. Maryland make’s me happy. There’s a serenity that’s in Maryland that I can not find in New York, maybe because I hear the train all day and night, so when in Maryland I enjoy the chirping of the birds.

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So, Let’s Talk

Earlier this week,  I was sitting in my bed at around 1:45 AM because it has been an hour since I had come home from work, I’m thinking about happiness. Since I’m still actively using my sheconquered_ Instagram page, I get to watch the instachat videos and scroll through all the things that muse me before closing my eyes. I listen to one of my favorite artist discuss the joy of sitting in her studio on her couch after a long day or early morning, and how it brings her happiness.
So my question is “WHAT BRINGS YOU HAPPINESS?” When was the last time you’ve done something that brought you complete joy? Was it something simple or complex? Did it make you reflect? Or, are you currently reading this and trying to find the answer? If so, take your time.
I say, use the summer months to bring a little bit of happiness into your world. It’s the best time to do it because there is something about warmer weather that makes people much happier.
My happiness list is as follows:
Sitting by water (Lake, Beach, River)
A perfectly made cup of tea in the early morning on a summer day
Mid day runs during 80 degree days
Parks, picnics, and friends (CURLFEST BROOKLYN)
Sunday mornings listening to Beres Hammond (I’ll always be a Caribbean girl)
Being with the people I genuinely/unconditionally love
Last but not least, a great cuddle. (The kind that makes you fall asleep and drool a little LOL)

Make a list and get the happiness flowing!

May was for Planning

I spent most of my month sending emails, conference calls, webinars, adding important dates to my calendar, completing papers, and mapping out my finances before the new school year approaches. I attended a beautiful wedding and partied memorial day weekend away with my 3 month old niece.
Within this time, I’m hoping that all of the above would distract me from the big leap I took at the end of April, but not so much. Why? Because love just doesn’t disappear, moments need time to become memories, and the heart wants what it wants even when it needs to heal. On the long bumpy journey that I spent with the man I once thought I would marry, I’ve learned that you create your own happiness, love is a choice, we failed at learning how to fight well because I wish we knew how to mutually deal with conflict amongst each other, emotions are dangerous, feelings are temporary, visons are powerful, hope will always be at my core, acceptance is key, growth is necessary, honesty is vital, forgiveness is a process, and peace is free.

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