It’s been a year of Sunday’s since I’ve come here. But every once in awhile I check up on everyone who has formed some type of consistency on their own space on the internet.
I couldn’t help but laugh at the start of tw!tter falling apart and everyone ran back to the blog world to “secure” a space of their own. A few things I made sure not to do in this space was monetizing, become an influencer, or be single focused. 1. Monetizing meant I would need to focus more on ad and brands. I’m barely influence now by all the shit available to buy now. It was sad watching some of my favorite bloggers disappear or focus on other platforms to maintain through monetization. 2. Influencing is HARD and the way life shakes out for me, I don’t have the patience! I also know my limitations. 3. Having a single focus would mean the other parts of you were unreal. I like being vulnerable enough to be criticized or sharing stories that may help someone else. Let’s be honest, every part of life won’t be shared but having opportunity to share and receive feedback is awesome. That said… I hope all of the OG bloggers reading this still feel safe here to be AUTHENTIC.
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Y’all I got bonus kids and they been giving me a run for my money! LOL. Two beautiful girls with personalities that made me question my mothers frustrations with me growing up. The only difference is I can be the cool parents since I’m choosing not to be an authoritarian. My biweekly weekends start with me preparing myself for order and planning. Look I can tell you about an amazing restaurant or bar in NYC but what to do with Kids? Nah. I really don’t know how my mother found all the things we did growing up but she’s the GOAT.
I said NYC. Yes, still here. Why? So my husband I put together a plan to relocate to the DMV at the end of the year until we snagged a 2 BEDROOM apartment in the city for less than $1600. Just google the going rate for apartments in NYC .. yeah $2000+. AND my best friend came through with well needed support and logic, my husband is living a dream I can’t relate to but one I can understand because I’m a first generation American, so NYC just might be where I’ll be for now. As things changes here, I’m weary but if you can make it here, you can make it anywhere! One day I’ll be able to really transition from this life in NY but I have to continue with the hustle and bustle for now.
I saw Beyoncé … that’s it!
I read two books this summer and I’m seeking more fiction books to read. It just seems easier to me to focus on. I started a few memoirs and I just couldn’t get with it. I tried. But I’m also a believer that books are about timing. It’s probably not the timing to read a memoir – there’s just a level of seriousness that I don’t have, does this make sense?
The two novels I read: Black Cake and You Made a Fool of Death with Your Beauty.
Black Cake drew me in because of the island related analogies and it made me miss Jamaica, my grandma, and seeing the immigrant experience – I actually know people who have to lie about who they are. It was great how everything came together at the end.
You made a fool was fun, but I was a little annoyed by the storytelling. I would like to read about the life they lived after because this book was drama!
I finally graduated and thought I’d have down time since, lies and scandal. I keep telling myself that I’m going start working out to get this wild 50+ lbs gain but it’s hard. I can’t quite explain it. I love the outdoors, this is the time to really get into the groove but I just can’t find one right now. Choosing my words carefully because there will be a now eventually. My husband and I have dedicated at least one weekend to ride our bicycles in our new community. It’s nice to be around water.
How y’all doing?
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My friends have been trying to get me to become an influencer because they think that I have the “it factor.” The problem is that I prefer to stay in the shadows because I’m a very private person and I can also become overstimulated quite easily, which triggers anxiety and panic attacks, so it’s a no go for me on that front. I miss the blogging days. I felt like I had more to talk about when I was younger but sometimes life has a way of making me not want to talk at all. Sometimes I don’t know where to start anyway. Nonetheless, I’ve been working on a new domain to align with how I feel about blogging. I hope to have it up by next year.
You should start with small workouts and incorporate more as time goes on. Small exercises here and there. I get some of my home workouts from youtube. It’s not much but I feel like it’s better than nothing and it motivates me to do more.
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I feel the same way about blog monetization. I feel like it ruins the entire vibe of the community that we’ve built. I enjoy coming to read blogs without feeling like I’m being sold a product. I wish we could forever have our little sliver of the world wide web.
Congrats on the apartment! I don’t know much about NYC, but I feel like that is a steal!
I’ve also gotten back into reading this year. How was Black Cake? Are you watching the show, as well?
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