Define "HIM"?

Thanks to my job and this scheduling that they have I have the opportunity to be up at 4:30am every morning Monday thru Friday so I can get to work by 6:00 am and I say this very dry by the way -_- … But since I’m usually on the road during my hours I get the opportunity to listen to The Steve Harvey’s Morning show. And for those who actually get to hear it as well, Steve has a dating segment on the show called Locate your Love (which by the way for you Atlanta ladies he sets up alot of  dates out there) and as I happened to turn the radio on during the segment, the guy who was chosen to interview two females asked a very vague but interesting question. But don’t word me on it because it’s been hours since but just to make it simple, “How would you define a good man?”

How would I define a good man? I think personally a good man is one that takes care of his home, works his fingers to the bone to make his family comfortable, a man who is father and not a daddy, and etc… My list can go on because I’ve described my father. We sure didn’t have the best situations but it took him ten years to finally put this kitchen in..
from every tile on that floor to the cabinets on the walls (his construction skills sure did pay off, handy isn’t he), and I’m not saying this because I’m a daddy’s girl but my father’s a good man. But behind every good man there’s a good woman. She could be your mother, aunt, sister, cousin, daughter, friend, lover, domestic partnership, just know theres a support system behind every good man.

I’m a single girl so I don’t have a beau or a husband to feel this way about yet.. but I do praise the good men I know or have once dated.
How would you define a good man?

Published by Amanda

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3 thoughts on “Define "HIM"?

  1. Love Steve Harvey!…and what an awesome question…for me i knew my husband was a good man when he kept to his word every single time…and he was a praying man and followed up with all the other stuff including attending church and actively a member of his church!


  2. hey girl, thanks for following my blog. i love this post and that you had described your father as defining “him”. i am not single, attached but not married, i think that my definition of a man has definitely changed through the years. the older i get, i feel that a real man is one who keeps their word and allows a woman to be her strong self.


  3. You wrote this years ago, so I don't know if your position still stands. Anyway, I think it's hard to define a good man, because everyone is different. My dad (who is still married to my mom) is just like the man you described; hard working, a provider, and so forth, but I don't think that's what makes him a good man. I think it's his character, his spirit, his resilience, his sensitivity, his love for music and intellectual forms. I think those qualities that go beyond what he has been taught to do as a man. Also, I don't think that a good man is necessarily a good fit. So on this journey of me understanding who I am as a single woman, I just pray to experience love with someone who is a good fit for me, not necessarily a good man…although the two could very well be the same.

    I apologize for the rush of comments you're getting from me, but I have the time so…this is what I do when I first start following someone's blog! lol Hope you don't mind.

    ♥ C.A.


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